Category Archives: Pop Culture

5 Totally Tubular 80’s Phenomenon

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Ahhhh, the 80’s…I remember them well…

THE CABBAGE PATCH DOLL CHRISTMAS CRAZE

It was just a doll, people! And a rather homely doll at that….

RONALD REAGAN

The President’s President. Those of us who were around back then remember him being just as vilified by popular media and the entertainment industry  as any one of the current GOP contenders. Now, politicians from both sides of the aisle are cat fighting just like the Real Housewives of New Jersey over which of them is the fairest of them all…er…the most Reagan-like. Go figure…

Click Here To Visit The Reagan Library Online 

THE ERA OF THE TEEN (AND THE TEEN MOVIE)

Looking back, this was a good time to be a teen. After all, the 80’s was all about having fun! Then again, these movies encouraged us all to look something like the love child of Boy George and Madonna. Kiddies, see if you can spot Jon Cryer from Two and a Half Men…back before he was Alan Harper, he was “Duckie”

FUN MUSIC…AND POLITICALLY INCORRECT DANCES TO GO WITH…

THE MULLET…BUSINESS IN THE FRONT, PARTY IN THE BACK

Lest you think this totally tubular trend is isolated to the 80’s, I am here to report that the mullet is alive and well in 2012: Rate My Mullet Mullet Joe.com

The Beginning Of The End Of The Cougar Trend?

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Cougar, Before Cougar Was Cool

A couple of years ago, I wrote a member contribution article for MORE Magazine: Multiculturalism And The Cougar Please don’t be impressed–you shouldn’t be. Anyone who signs up with MORE online as a member can write and submit articles for their online site, so trust me, I’m nothing special there. In the article, I offer my own observations and theories about the so called “Cougar” trend, completely invalid scientifically, as always. I was taking a course in multiculturalism at the time and it occurred to me that while there seemed to be an uptick in middle aged women dating young men that was getting a lot of attention, this particular phenomenon always seemed to be characterized by said middle aged romantic partner looking/acting/being anything but what she really was–a 40+ female. This is a reality which is in direct opposition to the concept of multiculturalism, in which differences are embraced, even emphasized, and thought of as equally desirable to the former ideal. I do this a lot actually when I’m taking a class–when immersed in a lot of hard facts and academic research, I whimsically apply what I’ve learned to pop culture, probably to stave off boredom and narcolepsy during class. This was especially puzzling, albeit entertaining to my decidedly left brained Armenian astrophysicist professor when I took Astronomy during my undergrad adventures. Needless to say, I didn’t take a lot of hard science in school–only what I had to have to graduate. 

At any rate, I thought I was onto something then, and today, with the tabloid and social media rumor mill working overtime to cover a possible Demi Moore/Ashton Kutcher split due to his alleged serial cheating with young college aged women, the buzzers are going off again. Now, first of all, who knows if there is truth to this story or not? Nobody, that’s who. None of us knows what really goes on in relationships outside our own, and that goes double for celebrity gossip that is often spun up by tabloid “journalists” on slow days, or even the stars’ own publicists when increased attention is needed to promote this or that new project. This could certainly be the case here, as both halves of this May/December couple have something new to promote right about now. But, that’s not the point. The point is that, given the nature of the Cougar trend, this is a very plausible outcome…

It’s my opinion that in the vast majority of relationships, the Cougar/Cub (god help me) thing is simply not built to last. Certainly, “women of a certain age” can be very attractive, even to much younger men. Why wouldn’t they be? Women who take care of their appearance can be beautiful at any age. And here I’ll insert a very Kelso-esque exclamation–DUH! But, it’s my feeling that a fleeting (and flattering) sexual attraction does not a lasting relationship make. Those natural, healthy differences between people with 15 or more years difference in their ages will always come back to bite them in that body part that you can bounce a quarter off of–in the case of Ashton’s 23 year old alleged girlfriends, that is. This is particularly true when the younger man, as in Kutcher’s case, doesn’t even act his own age (33), instead his public behaviors resemble that of his former television character, Michael Kelso, a high school student who was none too bright to boot. I’m just a couple of years shy of Demi Moore’s age. She’s 48 and I’m 46, and he strikes me as really immature, perpetually partying, punking people sophomoric-ally….cheating or not, living with him and being his wife would get on my nerves pretty quick.

For the past several years, I’ve seen a lot of media that holds this twosome up as some sort of golden couple…a shining example of how and why the Cougar trend is here to stay, and something that middle aged women should aspire to. But, in reality, what I see is that it doesn’t really work as well as they’d like to believe it does. As I covered in my piece for More.com, the only way it works to begin with is if the older female half of the equation spends an indefinite amount of time and energy on convincing herself, and everyone else, that she’s something she’s not. Can a 40+ year old woman be attractive…”hot” even? That goes without saying. Can a 40+ year old woman be happy in a relationship with a man many years her junior, long term? The answer is maybe, but I rather doubt it. And it’s for those reasons I mentioned in the article–an atmosphere of multiculturalism is not yet present when it comes to middle aged women. Meaning those of us willing to admit that we are 40+ in every way, including all the inevitable changes in our looks, our personalities, child-bearing inclinations and capabilities, our entertainment and lifestyle preferences, etc.


Cartoon by Jeff Berry, http://berrystudio.blogspot.com/

The reality is that people do change as they age. A 23 year old woman isn’t really the same as a 43 year old woman, just like a 43 year old woman isn’t the same as a 63 year old woman. And despite what popular media would have us all believe, it really is a rare romantic relationship with a multi year age difference that will work long term without the older woman exhaustively working to be 40+, but look and behave only 18+. And that’s sad, for all concerned. Over the last couple of years especially, I’ve watched Demi Moore age, yet frantically diet and exercise to the point of being thinner than she ought to be, constantly tweet sexy photos of herself, and in general try to project an image that she naturally exuded as a 23 year old–when she was 23. And what it looks like to me is part of an overall futile, and I believe completely unnecessary campaign to hang on to that infamous Cougar/Cub relationship of hers. Not to say that these two don’t have a deep affection for one another, which they may genuinely share. 

This makes me sad because I think Demi Moore is better than this. We all are. I hope that she sees herself as she really is, and lets her middle age flag fly in all its glory. That would serve as a true inspiration to women our age, I think, rather than the phony, fleeting one that has been served up to all of us for the past few years, in order to keep up the Cougar image. What I’d like to see is all of us being who we really are, in that true spirit of multiculturalism I talked about. Then, if intergenerational love happens, it happens…and it’d be real for a change….maybe it would even last, who knows? But, my gut tells me that it would be the beginning of the end of the Cougar Trend…a trend that would probably fade away on its own for the most part, having run its course. With a few exceptions that fall into the “you don’t choose who you love” category, I think we’d see a better trend…one that is characterized by women coming into their own, no matter what age they are, and going out there and getting everything they truly deserve, romantically and otherwise, with men who are their equals and are mature enough to appreciate authenticity. 

Trading the Cougar Trend for an Authenticity Trend…hmmm….that’s a trend I could promote! 

 

10 Great Red Carpet Looks; The 2011 Emmys

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I always watch the award show red carpet arrivals with great interest…the actual shows, not so much. Who wants to hear and see a bunch of actors pontificate about the finer points of their “craft”, phony air kiss one another, and bash conservative politicians? Yawn…

So, without further ado, here are the ten overall looks, not just dresses, that made me say “Wow!”, along with a lot of difficult names that I had to look up proper spellings for… 

This may seem like an odd choice, as others have expressed strong dislike for Kaley Cuoco’s Emmy look…But, I thought she looked cute, unique, and age appropriate. 

I love just about everything about Kate Winslet–she’s one of my all time favorites…Last night, she looked flawless as usual, and although red was a really popular color for a lot of ladies last night, Kate did it best! 

Christine Baranski–classy, gorgeous, and age appropriately HOT! 

Jane Krakowski…I would have advised against the overdone spray tan, but other than that–she looked fantastic! 

Dianna Agron was a vision in violet…

Julia Stiles…great fitting, beautiful strapless gown–perfect! 

I thought Kate Flannery looked beautiful and elegant…and her gown is an exact match with her eyes–did you notice that? 

Padma Lakshmi…not sure what the heck that is on her arm, but she was a goddess last night…

Sofia Vergara–perfect! Someone should steer the redhead from Mad Men in this direction…you don’t always need to have everything spilling out of your top, we all know it’s ample and impressive already…

And finally, my absolute favorite look of the night…Cobie Smulders was perfect in every way! I loved the color of her gown, her flawless hair and makeup, and gorgeous accessories….WOW! 


The 6 Greatest T.V. Couples, By The Decade

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Tonight is Emmy night…the evening the world stops and honors excellence in television. As a card carrying member of the television generation, and an unabashed romantic as well, here are my top picks for the greatest t.v. couples of all time, by the decade…

THE FIFTIES

LUCY & RICKY

Despite their separate twin beds, the Latino/Redhead heat between these two was hard to miss…much later in life, I met a real life Lucy & Ricky…my two younger boys’ grandparents! RIP Dorothy & Tony Casas…:*) 

THE SIXTIES

MARSHALL DILLON & MISS KITTY

Did they, or didn’t they? I guess we may never know…but we all loved the hint of romance between Matt Dillon and Miss Kitty, a classic Good Boy/Bad Girl attraction…:-) 

THE SEVENTIES 

THE BRADYS

Mike & Carol…ahhh, the perfect, unrealistic blended family (see, The 80’s, 90’s and 2,000’s)…oh man, did they set us all up for disappointment! 

THE EIGHTIES

MADDIE & DAVID

Sexual tension as plotline on television…and Moonlightling taught us a little something about that, now didn’t it? Once the golden couple actually begins a relationship, the party’s over…

THE NINETIES

ROSS & RACHEL

The One That Taught Us That Maybe Our Soulmate Was There All Along…

THE NEW MILLENIUM

MARY & MARSHALL

Partners…Equals…Lots in common despite being opposite on the surface….hmmm…the perfect couple perhaps? We’ll see! 

5 Women of Style…Iconic Because They Made their Own

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A lot of the stylish women featured in magazines, both entertainment and fashion, are listed as such because they follow fashion trends set by others, and look great doing it. That’s an accomplishment, I suppose, but the style icons that really interest me are those who march to the beat of their own drum and develop their own style. The ordinary women who pull this off are never brought to our attention, unless we know them personally, but here are a few of my all time favorites that I think you’ll recognize…

STEVIE NICKS

Why She’s Iconic: Because she took a few different looks, and melded them into her own unique signature style…Always ethereal, slightly mysterious, and cool–to this day! 

Click here to watch the ladies of The Talk interview Stevie about how her unique look was inspired, and has evolved. Stevie talks style around 19 minutes into this full episode, and sings at the end so it’s well worth watching the whole thing.  

Stylish Quote: “I think they all went too far. Their jeans got too low, their tops got too see-through. Personally, I think that sexy is keeping yourself mysterious. I’m really an old-fashioned girl, and I think I’m totally sexy”.

COCO CHANEL

Why She’s Iconic: She made sophisticated, simple, and elegant an always acceptable style option for women. You can never go wrong with a Chanel-esque look…this was true in her heyday, and will never go out of fashion. 

Coco Chanel on Biography.com 

Stylish Quote: “A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous”. 

MADONNA




Why She’s Iconic: Madonna’s unique style literally symbolizes the 80’s. We’re glad a lot of it is permanently lost to that decade, hopefully never to return, but say what you will–this woman was definitely a style trendsetter who played by her own rules. 

Madonna, The Early Years, Singing “Borderline”  

Stylish Quote: “I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” 

CLEOPATRA

Why She’s Iconic: Let’s face it, who knows exactly what she looked like? However, Cleopatra is and always will be a well known fashion icon, emulated still today. Any woman who can pull that off when no modern person ever even saw her deserves a place on this list! 

Here’s a fascinating article detailing a scientific study that found that Cleo’s infamous eye makeup was actually healthy–who knew? Cleopatra Eye Makeup 

Stylish Quote: “Be it known that we, the greatest, are misthought.” 

PRINCESS DIANA

Why She’s Iconic: Not for the reasons you’ve always heard…The late Princess Diana is a style icon in my book because of her successful style evolution, which mirrored her life. She evolved, matured, and found out who she really was over the years…And she took us all along for the ride. Her early years were filled with style bloopers, in my opinion, and she was responsible for me looking hideous more than once in big flouncy ruffles that were so not me, or her, for that matter. But, even when she was a world famous style icon who set trends all over the globe with her less than fashionable fashion, she demonstrated that quality that every style icon possesses–fearlessness. You can’t be truly stylish if you’re afraid to take a risk to express yourself! 

This is an article on the latest news of the ongoing auction of Diana’s famous dresses: Princess Diana 

Stylish Quote: “I like to be a free spirit. Some don’t like that, but that’s the way I am.” 

5 FAR OUT THINGS TO LOVE ABOUT THE 70’S

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PET ROCKS

THE HUSTLE

 

VERY, VERY PRETTY BOYS


LOOKING BETTER IN THEIR PUKA SHELLS THAN WE DID IN OURS…

TRULY MINDLESS, FUN TELEVISION–BACK TO BACK EVERY SATURDAY NIGHT

THE ORIGINAL, JUMBO SIZED BONNE BELL LIP SMACKERS THAT THEY DON’T SELL ANYMORE